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Three steps to taking a compliment after massive weight loss: A no-fail guide

Far too many post-ops do NOT know how to accept a compliment. I’ve learned this in my 10 years since surgery. It’s actually fairly important that you do learn to accept a compliment, mostly because it’s a part of being respectful of others, but also it’s an important part of building up your self-esteem. So let’s start with the three-step method …

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Three LIES we tell ourselves about healthy eating

At the risk of sounding like a hater…when we start to eat healthfully we get some really screwed up notions about eating. And I get it. The things we have to tell ourselves to get by and yadda. Usually I don’t make much of some of the beliefs I hear expressed. But, frankly, some of them are biting us in …

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5 Signs You Need to See a Bariatric Dietitian

I’m going to make a confession. Working with a dietitian, historically, has not been one of my favorite parts of the bariatric journey. I’m a rebel, Foodies! I don’t want anyone telling me what to do. And telling me what to EAT? Get outta here! But if there’s one truth I’ve had to accept above all others in my 9+ …

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5 Mistakes That Are Killing Your Weight Loss Mojo

First off all let me say that I have made every mistake a person can make after weight loss surgery. I have: obsessed over food (to the point where I basically had an eating disorder) neglected my vitamins and follow-up care (and a few deficiencies resulted…lesson learned!) totally rebelled against healthy eating (and had both the little and big bounce-back weight as a result) …

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Four Hard Truths I Had to Accept After Weight Loss Surgery

They say when you have weight loss surgery, they operate on your stomach and not your head. Most of the time when I hear this said it’s pertaining to hunger, appetite and eating. But it’s true in so many ways. I don’t know about you guys, but there were ways I was much more balanced as an obese person than …

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7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re a Food Addict

Disclaimer: This post contains the experiences of a person who identifies as a food addict. The information in this post is not meant to replace advice from a medical or mental health professional. If you or someone you love is struggling with food addiction, please seek immediate medical attention! I was scrolling through Facebook yesterday and I came across an article …

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3 Things Bariatric Post-Ops Need to Stop Doing in 2016

(WOOOOOOOOOSAHHHHHH) That’s me bracing myself for the potential backlash of this post. But I don’t care! I am a part of the bariatric community, which means I am in this community, which means I see the many ways we invent to torture ourselves after surgery. And enough is enough. 2016 needs to be the year where we love ourselves. And if you …

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